The Pain Body: A Cat in Heat

My cat is in heat right now. This means that she moans and wails all day, constantly nagging about her pain(poor baby, I know). However, there exists a strange phenomena in all of this. Whenever I put her in the kitchen and shut the door(with food and water of course), thus leading her to believe that no one is around, she simply stops nagging and goes to sleep.

The Pain body works in quite the same way. Without a person to nag to, manifest itself, compare itself to, or be reminded of itself, it simply goes to sleep.

But before we delve in, let's take a look at what the Pain Body is. First of all, the word pain body is still considered to be a part of new age jargon, but is considered by spiritualists, healers and massage therapists to be a very real thing. Have you ever felt like you were being tortured inside as you relived a traumatic moment of your life?

Perhaps you had a panic attack or tense muscular contractions shot down your back? Why should you feel all that pain about something which is over? Well, when we contemplate our pain, our cells and muscles remember this and so create a connection between the emotions and our physical well-being. So even after the trauma has ended, all it now takes is a simple thought to reactivate the pain body cells.

So what does this mean about overcoming the pain body.....that we should isolate ourselves in a kitchen?!

Not necessarily, as you will only begin to nag and over manifest the pain to yourself, inside your head.

It means that you should use discipline to tell your pain body to SHUT THE FUCK UP!
Tell it to stop nagging both to yourself and to others. You are no longer in pain, you are no longer in danger and rationally you HAVE learnt from your pain(hopefully).

Therefore the only thing the pain body does by constantly nagging, is re-manifesting itself and attracting new pain.

Here are some tips on how to overcome the pain body.

1. Surround yourself with good, or at least neutral people. Many people from your past who know your history will want to use it as a prejudgement and label you. They may use your mishaps, mistakes or tragedies as a means of placing you beneath them(or REACTIVATING your pain body so that you don't heal). This is a clever way to deflect  from their own pain, mishaps, mistakes and insecurities.  Do not seek approval from these people, instead become diplomatic and do not reveal your inner self to them. Or if you really don't give a shit, just cut them out.

*You have to use Strict Discipline to find good people and cut out bad people, because at this moment you are naturally more attracted to bad people.*

2. Let your pain body go to sleep, while you explore new frontiers. Find things which interest you and are HEALING at the same time. Things like yoga, healthy eating, writing, reading, meditating, sports, nature, massage therapy and art are all things which help heal the pain body.

However, things like unhealthy foods, too much trashy tv, overindulging in sex, becoming sedentary, and spending too much time on the internet(especially on social networks) are things which will numb you from your pain body and allow it to grow more and more and boil beneath the surface.

So when I talk about letting it go to sleep, I don't mean numbing yourself and ignoring it. You must acknowledge its existence but use positive healing activities to create a HEALING BODY, which will overshadow your PAIN BODY.

*You have to use Strict Discipline to engage in healing activities and stop doing numbing activities, because numbing activities are more addictive and appealing. Same goes with healthy foods vs. unhealthy foods.*

3. Stop thinking about it. Why? Because thought is not what got you into the mess, so thought won't get you out of it. Often when we enter abusive relationships for example, we kind of already think the person is fucked up, but put up with them anyway. This is because we are inclined to them, because they activate our pain body....not because we are stupid. We know what is going on. We know the pain is over once the relationship ends. We know that it wasn't our fault that so and and so was a nut.

We also know that it wasn't our fault that our parents got divorced, or that so and so was an addict or died tragically. WE KNOW ALL OF THIS RATIONALLY, so rationale is neither what caused the pain, nor what will get you out of it.

*You have to use Strict Discipline to stop thinking about your pain, because your ego believes that if you think about it enough, you will find a solution.*

So what DID cause the pain?
What caused the pain is an emotional cellular response which is instinctive. When you were born, you had an instinctive response to your mother as soon as you were put on her chest. That cellular response is what created a bond which is crucial to survival.

In fact, in an experiment, a baby monkey was separated from its mother and given two robot "mothers" to bond with. One of the robots was soft and cuddly, while the other was hard, but had food in it. Out of survival instinct, the monkey gravitated towards the soft and cuddly robot. It knew that it needed love more than food. That instinctual survival bond is what people refer to as unconditional love.

So these same cells which create bonds also react throughout life as bonds are broken. It reacts in pain, sadness, depression, detachment, despair and a feeling of abandonment.

So which cells are better for survival, the warm and cuddly ones or the sad and painful ones?

Thats riiiiight, the warm and cuddly ones!

So what do you do if you're at your wits end, noone wants to cuddle and you barely have the strength to pick yourself up and go enjoy yourself to create those happy bonding cells?

You go Heal.

Clear your Schedule and write one word on your Calendar: HEAL

When you eat: Heal

When you Bathe: Heal

When you watch something: Watch something Healing

When you play: Heal

When you do sport: Heal

But remember, the search is not external...so don't be frustrated if all those activities don't "work" right away. The road to happiness is a long internal climb. Forgive yourself. Let go of worry and just let yourself Heal.

And remember if you just acknowledge your pain body, but focus on recreating your happy cells.....the pain body goes to sleep.

All of this in essence, is an acknowledgement that you were born to unconditional love, it was then taken away from you, causing you pain, and making you believe that love is actually conditional and that you may or may not be worthy of it. And now you must re-create love by unconditionally loving yourself.

This self-love is more powerful than the original "unconditional" love that you were given as a child, as no one can take it away from you....you can only give it away.

So there you have it!

Hope this Helps, Heals and spreads Happiness.